What's love.
A friend's son is thinking about getting married and asked me how you can tell if you’re in love.
The flip answer is listen to your heart, but that's not much help because your heart doesn't know the difference between infatuation and love. I don't believe in love at first sight. True, that electric spark between two people can put a spark in love. It can help you know a person is one you want to be with, but good love grows over time.
Love is learned as you get to know and become committed to a person. Love is not sex, but sex without love is simply a physical exercise. Sex with love can be glorious. Love means you're willing to commit your life to the other person. You want to be with the person and care for that person. It means you're willing to sacrifice your life, if it becomes necessary.
Love is about relationships.
Its commitment
its respect
its trust
it is the desire to help your partner be the best they can be.
That is why infidelity is so devastating. It destroys trust and respect and it puts your partner at risk of disease. Violence has no place in a marriage. If you mate tries to dominate you, either mentally or physically, it is time to take you boat and plot a new course.
Respect is the basis for any positive relationship. When there is mutual respect in a relationship there is room for a couple to grow together and for them to each grow as individuals.
On the river of life, if you choose to join your boat to another, two boats can expand you horizons and be more stable in a storm. When you pull up for the night, making camp together can be easier and more fun. But, ultimately, you are responsible for your own boat and for choosing your own safe course through a rapid.
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Riding the river home port
Week One
Boats float for a reason.
If you can figure out the reason, you can float too.
The Power of Cause and Effect
Week Two
You see dangerous rapids ahead
while I see an exciting ride.
We all see the river not as it is, but as we believe it to be.
The Power of Definition and Belief
Week Three
The River is just the river.
Any problem that you have is a reflection of your boat.
The Power of Reflection
Week Four
Lots to see on the river.
If all you see are rapids, you haven’t been paying attention.
The Power of Focus
Week Five
Instead of complaining about the wind,
you could learn to adjust your sails.
The Power of Strategy
Week Six
No such thing as an empty water jug.
Air pours in as water pours out.
The Power of Vacuum
Week Seven
Rivers carve canyons one rock at a time.
The Power of Process and Growth
Week Eight
An innocent may attempt to dry himself midstream,
but only a fool blames water for being wet.
The Power of Responsibility
Week Nine
Keep the river clean and you’ll always have water.
The Power of Contribution and Compensation
Week Ten
Fish swim in schools for a reason.
The Power of Attraction
Week Eleven
Water, and everything else, tends to evaporate.
The Power of Entropy
Week Twelve
If you want your crew to listen,
learn to speak their language.
The Power of Communication and Understanding
Week Thirteen
Captains chart courses for their reasons, not yours.
The Power of Persuasion and Influence
Week Fourteen
People design their journeys
based upon the captains they most admire.
The Power of Indirect Effort
Before you cast off
Advice from two hundred years ago
Week One
Boats float for a reason.
If you can figure out the reason, you can float too.
The Power of Cause and Effect
Week Two
You see dangerous rapids ahead
while I see an exciting ride.
We all see the river not as it is, but as we believe it to be.
The Power of Definition and Belief
Week Three
The River is just the river.
Any problem that you have is a reflection of your boat.
The Power of Reflection
Week Four
Lots to see on the river.
If all you see are rapids, you haven’t been paying attention.
The Power of Focus
Week Five
Instead of complaining about the wind,
you could learn to adjust your sails.
The Power of Strategy
Week Six
No such thing as an empty water jug.
Air pours in as water pours out.
The Power of Vacuum
Week Seven
Rivers carve canyons one rock at a time.
The Power of Process and Growth
Week Eight
An innocent may attempt to dry himself midstream,
but only a fool blames water for being wet.
The Power of Responsibility
Week Nine
Keep the river clean and you’ll always have water.
The Power of Contribution and Compensation
Week Ten
Fish swim in schools for a reason.
The Power of Attraction
Week Eleven
Water, and everything else, tends to evaporate.
The Power of Entropy
Week Twelve
If you want your crew to listen,
learn to speak their language.
The Power of Communication and Understanding
Week Thirteen
Captains chart courses for their reasons, not yours.
The Power of Persuasion and Influence
Week Fourteen
People design their journeys
based upon the captains they most admire.
The Power of Indirect Effort
Before you cast off
Advice from two hundred years ago
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3 comments:
This comment is beautiful. I could not have said it better myself.
When it comes to defining love for yourself, remember love is a verb. Love is an action, not a thing you get. Love is a choice. Love is a moment. Love choosing to treat people in a loving manner regardless of how they treat you.
Moreover, the only way to get unconditional love is to learn to give unconditional of love.
Love is not easy, but it is worthwhile...
Thank you for your share.
I can remember the last couple of days of my dad?셲 life. We had a cousin, his name was Carlos, and he also had cancer. My dad took him to the doctor on Friday. The doctor informed my dad that he had less than two weeks. My dad came home sad, and said to all of us, ?쏡on?셳 make any plans this weekend. We?셱e going to Carlos?셲 house to have a traditional Colombian dinner. My dad said, ?쏡on?셳 any of you be late,??with a stern voice.
Well that Sunday came around, and my dad started early that morning saying to everyone, ?쏥et ready, we?셱e going to Carlos?셲.??He was talking fast and desperate to get going. The whole family was getting together, family we hadn?셳 seen in years, plus my cousins in New York
We had a good time. We listen to music and danced and ate. The next day, Monday night, my dad fell ill. He died the next day
This was not Carlos?셲 day to say good-bye, but my father?셲 way to say good-bye. Carlos died two months after my dad.
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